They often say of old friends that when you meet them

After a long absence, it’s as if time itself were defeated

And you pick up where you left off, but when two friends

With whom I’d worked forty years ago, two old men

Came to visit me, I was struck by how much they had changed:

This one, after two divorces and a career in community education

Was committed to playing and composing jazz, an ability

And skills not evident when I knew him, though perhaps his instantly

Correct grasp of my ideas came from the same place as his joy

In jamming. The other when young had been a benign playboy

Of energy and potential, which he had used well in local

Government, family life, and friendships to become a bloke of

mellow interaction, easy with the world. I love them new

as they are, hoping for future meetings in which this true

affection may be celebrated. But who did they encounter?

A man stripped of illusions of personal empowerment

And communal usefulness, offering only a trust in what

Is beyond the self, whose daughter’s death was havoc

To the soul, how could they love this altered man?

And yet they did, it seemed by their warmth, even if I can

Not. Friendship is no mere aggregate but a mystery whose arts

Make a whole that is greater than the sum of its parts.